Wednesday May 12, 2021
How many times have we often heard the hackneyed quote about erring being human and forgiveness being divine?
Forgiveness is easily preached but hard to practice.
That was the scenario that played out between record-breaking singer, Adele and her father, Mark Evans.
Singer, Adele’s father, Mark Evans
For many years, father and daughter were estranged because of the bad blood flowing in the family.
Adele was finding it difficult to forgive her father for abandoning her and her mother, Penny when she was just 3 years old.
Left in the cold by a runaway father, Adele grew up, knowing only the mother’s love.
Adele who was born in the North London district of Tottenham on May 5, 1988 knew she had to learn to live without a father who was an incurable alcoholic.
Adele as a child with her mom, Penny.
After she graduated from public school in 2006, she decided to gravitate towards where her talent really was — music!
Barely 15 years later, she has transformed into one of the world’s biggest selling recording artists with millions and millions of albums sold world wide, a cache of prestigious awards including 15 Grammy Awards, 5 American Music Awards, 18 Billboard Music Awards, to mention but a few.
Her estranged father had not be unaware of the sudden fame of a daughter who barely knew him. But he tried to reach out to her, nevertheless.
He made several attempts, including speaking to some of Britain’s best-selling newspapers like The Sun, The Daily Mirror and a host of others, at least to have an audience with her fabulously wealthy daughter to no avail.
Adele who knew the efforts her dad was making to reach out to her made it even harder for reconciliation as she often publicly denounced his moves.
She allowed him no room to see her son, Angelo James when he was born to former husband, Simon Konecki in 2011, she also openly admitted she didn’t love him in her acceptance speech while receiving a Grammy Award for Record of The Year in 2017.
ADELE as a multiple award winning superstar
Instead, she had referred to her manager, Jonathan Dickins who she credited for her work on her third studio album, as her father.
“Thank you to my manager because the comeback, as it were, was completely masterminded by him,” she said.
“And you executed it incredibly, and I owe you everything. We’ve been together for 10 years, and I love you like you’re my dad.
“I love you so, so much. I don’t love my dad, that’s the thing. That doesn’t mean a lot,” she told a stunned audience at the awards ceremony.
Adele’s father thinking that he could win some sympathy had openly confessed to a drinking habit that probably made him irrational in his younger days.
He had told The Sun UK in an interview in 2011, “I was a rotten father at a time when she really needed me.
“I was putting away two litres of Vodka and seven and eight pints of Stella everyday.”
He had followed this confession up with another open apology published in the Sunday Mirror.
Still the ‘Hello’ hit-maker did not budge.
ON DEATH THROES.
Well, as if his troubles were just beginning, Adele’s father was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2013.
Interestingly, it was exactly the same terminal ailment that killed his own father — thus looking like a hereditary disease!
And, after almost 8 years of battling the disease, Adele’s father, Mark Evans finally died on Monday at the age of 57.
It was obvious from a statement the family put out immediately he passed on that he never fulfilled his desire to reunite and make peace with his richly endowed daughter.
“Mark’s family are of course very upset by his passing. He always hoped things would work out with Adele, but it remained acrimonious to the end.
“He made a few attempts to make things right, but clearly it had been too long,” an unnamed family member said on Monday.
As his cancer got worse and life began to ebb slowly out of him, Mark Evans must have reviewed his life a thousand times, wondering how he left a life that promised so much bliss with a special child he had for one that offered momentary pleasure with a catastrophic end.
He had hoped his daughter, softened by marriage and the birth of a son, would reconsider her harsh stance on forgiveness and readmit him into her life.
Well, now, it is not ever going to be.